Part 1 of 3: Not On Our Radar

Adopting Mei was not our idea. We both knew that we wanted to adopt again and had our ideas of what that would look like. We would adopt a girl, maybe about 4 years old from Ethiopia or domestically, and we would wait until Beniam was in kindergarten. Because God knows we have our hands full right now. I mean, if everyone who sees me in the grocery store with all three kids remarks that I have my hands full, surely God knows, too. That is what I thought. Because that is how I looked at it then.

But, then one night, I was looking at this girl staring back at me on a computer screen. She was a “waiting child” from China. I had not intended to see her. (It is easier if you do not see.) I was innocently checking a blog to see an update on a friend’s new daughter from China. I did not know that she primarily uses her blog to advocate for waiting children in China.

So there I sat, looking at “Mandy.” And, I knew why she was there. Only “special people with a unique calling” adopt children like her. She had special needs. It should have been really easy for me to pass her by. And, believe me, I tried. I simply closed the computer and went on my way. But, I could not stop thinking about her. Days went by and I convinced myself to not think of her. I was 100% sure that we could not adopt her and that God would never call us to something like that. He knows me. He knows I am too weak. So I forgot about it.

One week later. I sat on my porch, Bible opened, praying. Asking God how I had gone from feeling so very close to Him in previous months to all of a sudden feeling distant, disconnected somehow. I wondered if I had done something to distract myself from seeing God. Lord, I really want to know. What is it that has come between you and me? And only one word came to my mind. Mandy. For real?!? What am I supposed to do about her? I am certain you would not have us adopt a little girl that is going to need heart surgery. We have three young children, one income, a small house, and you know I am too weak. That is just simply not possible! But, there were no more answers. Just Mandy.

That night, I looked at her picture again. This time with my Bible open in my lap. I would look and then in my heart say “This is just my silly emotions. I am just being a ‘bleeding heart.’” I listed off one by one all of the reasons why even considering the adoption of a child with special needs like Mandy was ridiculous. After each one, I opened my Bible to whatever page it opened to, and I read. And, each verse was a direct answer to the doubts I had just expressed.

Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.
Luke 1:45

But how, Lord?

The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. . . . For nothing is impossible with God.
Luke 1:35, 37

By now, I was a little angry, to be honest. This was someplace I did not want to go with God. Yes, I wanted to adopt again, but this was too much, and I am not enough, and I did not want to get in over my head and drown.

I slammed my Bible shut and closed the computer. But, I was forming a plan that would get this taken care of really quick. I would simply tell Scott. He would be totally blindsided, agree that I was just being idealistic or emotional to even entertain the thought, and basically just freak out. That would be the end of that!

Part 2 to follow…


Haley Long

I am a recipient of amazing grace. I’ve been married 11 years to my husband, Scott. We had 2 children, Isaac and Zoe. Then one day God met us both in the same moment and broke our hearts and filled them with love for orphan children. In 2008, we brought our son Beniam, now 3, home from Ethiopia. We are currently in the process to adopt a little girl named Mei from China. I am a Florida girl who loves sunshine, water, and sand. I enjoy almost anything you can do outdoors, especially in the mountains. When forced to stay inside, I love to read and write.

2 Responses to Part 1 of 3: Not On Our Radar

  • Erika Solgos says:

    Looking forward to Part 2 of this story! Thankful that God doesn’t leave us alone and that he always has our best in mind when he asks us to do hard things.

  • OK, I’m hooked! Can’t wait to read more– thank you Haley. I just read this quote from Spurgeon and thought it might encourage you.
    “He whose life is one even and smooth path, will see but little of the glory of the Lord, for he has few occasions of self-emptying, and hence but little fitnes for being filled with the revelation of God. They who navigate little streams and shallow creeks, know but little of the God of tempests; but they who “do business in great waters,” these see his “wonders in the deep.” Charles Spurgeon

    I trust that God is ready to share some beautiful and powerful wonders in the deep. How dear you must be to Him!

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